What can I do? How can I live a balanced life while my loved one's life seems to be spinning out of control?
There is little support in the United States for the loved ones of sex workers. At Because She Matters, we are often contacted by the loved ones of sex workers who feel they have nowhere to turn for help. It's true--if you can't afford private therapy, there may be few resources for you to turn to.
After talking over the particulars of these situations with many family members, here is what I usually recommend. Alanon or Naranon meetings focus on helping you establish appropriate "boundaries" with your loved one and take care of your own emotional needs.
While sex workers often turn to a substance such as drugs or alcohol to cope with the stress of their lives, or may turn to the sex industry to earn money to support their drug habits, this is not always the case. If you feel you are not a candidate for these 12-Step programs, Families Anonymous may be a better fit for you.
Sometimes we can help you persuade your loved one to seek help and support to exit the sex industry. Quite often, though, sex workers must hit their own particular bottom before they seek help. And in some cases, those working in the industry are content right where they are and we cannot persuade them to change. We can only learn to live comfortably despite their decisions.
You do not have to sacrifice your mental health because of the behavior of another. If you are worn out and stressed over struggling with a loved one's choices, it may be time for you to get help. These programs can help.
Our next support group for family members and women seeking to exit the industry or who have exited and need support is on Thursday, November 1, at 7:30 p.m. at 6060 N. 7th St. in Phoenix, AZ. We meet at the Activities Center at that church campus.
We are not affiliated with any religious organization and seek only to support family and sex workers. Join us if you can.